New Year-Resolutions.

हम सभी में एक या दूसरी बुरी आदतें होती हैं जो हम किसी भी कीमत पर बचना चाहते हैं। इसके लिए, हम वास्तव में कठिन प्रयास करते हैं। लेकिन इन आदतों से पूरी तरह से बचा नहीं जा सकेगा। हम फिर से कुछ समय के अंतराल के बाद ऐसा करना शुरू करते हैं। उनसे पूरी तरह बचने के लिए, हम संकल्प करना भी शुरू कर देते हैं। जैसे कुछ लोग बहुत मोटे होंगे और वे नीचे गिरने का संकल्प लेते हैं, कुछ लोग बहुत सी मिठाइयाँ खाते हैं, वे मिठाइयों से बचने की शपथ लेते हैं, कुछ लोग इस आदत से बचने के लिए बहुत अधिक झूठ बोलते हैं। कुछ लोग गरीबों और जरूरतमंदों वगैरह की मदद करने का संकल्प लेते हैं।

संकल्प लेना काफी आसान है लेकिन उनका पालन करना और उन आदतों से पूरी तरह से छुटकारा पाना इतना सरल नहीं है। जब ये आदतें एक वास्तविक समस्या बन जाती हैं जो उनके जीवन को प्रत्यक्ष या अप्रत्यक्ष रूप से प्रभावित करती हैं, तब तक, वे उन्हें गंभीरता से नहीं लेते हैं। जैसे कि मिठाई खाना मधुमेह के रोगियों के लिए खतरनाक हो सकता है, जब तक कि यह उनके स्वास्थ्य पर प्रतिकूल प्रभाव डालता है, तब तक वे इससे नहीं बचेंगे, बेरोजगार रहना और निर्भर रहना एक बुरी आदत है, लेकिन लोग तब तक गंभीरता से नौकरी खोजने की कोशिश नहीं करेंगे, जब तक कि उनके बुजुर्ग भोजन करने से इनकार नहीं करते। उन्हें।

जैसे-जैसे हम बड़े होते हैं, हम ऐसी आदतों से बचने और निर्दोष बनने की कोशिश करते हैं। और हम भी बहुत हद तक परिपूर्ण हो जाते हैं और अपनी युवा पीढ़ी को अच्छे आदर्शों और सिद्धांतों को सिखाना शुरू कर देते हैं और वे इन आदतों को आत्मसात करना शुरू कर देते हैं और समय बीतने के साथ निर्दोष बनने लगते हैं और जीवन का अनुभव करते हैं।

जो चीजें हमारी आदतें बन जाती हैं और हमें भारी नुकसान पहुंचाती हैं, हम उन्हें धीरे-धीरे देखते हैं और पूरे साल उन्हें टालने की कोशिश करते हैं और अगर पूरे साल संभव नहीं हो पाता है, तो हम उन प्रथाओं को पूरा करने का संकल्प लेकर अगले साल इसे आगे बढ़ाते हैं। ऐसा नहीं है कि हर कोई अपने ट्रायल में फेल हो जाता है, लेकिन उनमें से कई तो सफलतापूर्वक इससे बाहर निकल जाते हैं और दूसरों के लिए एक मिसाल कायम करते हैं जबकि दूसरों को उनसे बाहर आने में थोड़ा समय लगता है।

यह सब किसी की इच्छा शक्ति की बात है। जिस व्यक्ति की इच्छा शक्ति अधिक मजबूत होती है, वे उन प्रथाओं को इससे पहले ही खत्म कर देंगे, जिससे वे नकारात्मक रूप से प्रभावित होने लगेंगे। और जिस व्यक्ति की इच्छा शक्ति कमजोर है, उसके लिए पहले अपनी इच्छा शक्ति को मजबूत करने में समय लगता है फिर उन चीजों से बचने के लिए या उन्हें अपनी दिनचर्या से बाहर निकालने के लिए।

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We all have one or the other bad habits inculcated in us which we want to avoid at any cost. For this, we try really hard. But these habits will not be avoided completely. We again start doing that after a gap of some time. In order to avoid them completely, we even start making resolutions. Like some people will be too obese and they take up a resolution of slimming down, some people eat too many sweets they take up an oath of avoiding sweets, some people lie a lot they take up a resolution to avoid this habit. Some people take a resolution of helping poor and needy and so on and so forth.

Taking resolutions is quite easy but following them and completely getting rid of those habits is not that simple. When these habits become a real problem that affects their life directly or indirectly, till then, they do not take them seriously. Like eating sweets could be dangerous to diabetes patients they will not avoid it till the time it affects their health adversely, being unemployed and dependent is a bad habit, but people will not try to find a job seriously till the time their elders refuse to feed them.

As we grow older, we try to avoid such habits and become flawless. And also we become perfect to much extent and start teaching the good ideals and principles to our younger generations and they begin to imbibe these habits and move towards becoming flawless with the time passing by, and experiencing life.

The things which become our habits and harm us enormously, we observe them gradually and try avoiding them the whole year and if not possible the whole year, we carry it forward the next year by taking a resolution of evading those practices. It's not like everyone fails in their trials, but many of them even get out of it successfully and set an example for others while it takes some time for others to come out of them.

It's all a matter of one's will power. The person whose will power is stronger will evade those practices before they start affecting them negatively. And the person whose will power is weaker, it takes time for him to first strengthen his will power then to avoid those things or take them out of his daily routine.

Life After Retirement

एक व्यक्ति अपने और अपने परिवार की आजीविका के लिए जीवन भर मेहनत करता है। इस अवधि में, वह जीवन के विभिन्न चरणों से गुजरता है, वह कई ऊपर और नीचे का सामना करता है और एक विजेता के रूप में उभरता है। जैसा कि वह अपने परिवार का रोटी कमाने वाला है, वह हर स्थिति को आशावादी रूप से लेता है ताकि वह अपनी नौकरी न खोए और अपने स्तर को उस उच्च और उच्च स्थिति तक पहुंचाने की पूरी कोशिश करे। हालांकि, कई उदाहरण हैं, जहां नियोक्ता कर्मचारियों को सिफारिश, भाई-भतीजावाद, पक्षपात या रिश्वत, आदि के आधार पर आग लगाते हैं।

किसी प्रतिष्ठित संगठन में अच्छी नौकरी पाने का सपना हर व्यक्ति का होता है। इसे पूरा करने के लिए, वह जाने-माने विश्वविद्यालयों से मेधावी ग्रेड के साथ अच्छी शिक्षा प्राप्त करता है। लेकिन कभी-कभी इतना प्रयास करने के बाद भी, एक व्यक्ति पक्षपात, भाई-भतीजावाद, और अन्य व्यक्तिगत एहसानों के नाम पर विफलताओं का सामना करता है। इतना ही नहीं, बल्कि समाज की ऐसी बुराइयों के कारण उनके अच्छे प्रदर्शन को भी कम करके आंका जाएगा। यदि कोई भी कंपनी अपने कर्मचारियों को उनके वास्तविक प्रदर्शन और समस्या-समाधान की क्षमताओं के बजाय इन कारकों के आधार पर न्याय करती है, तो यह समझा जा सकता है कि कोई आश्चर्य नहीं कि यह नुकसान में पड़ जाएगा और असली रत्न खो जाएगा।

कोई फर्क नहीं पड़ता, एक व्यक्ति अपने परिवार के लिए रोटी और मक्खन कमाने के लिए इन सभी स्थितियों से गुजरता है। वह इन सभी परिदृश्यों का सामना करता रहता है और इस अवधि में वेतन वृद्धि और पदोन्नति भी प्राप्त करता है। वह पूरी मेहनत करता है और अपने परिवार के लिए ठोस काम करता है।

और अंततः, वह किसी दिन कड़ी मेहनत और व्यस्त कार्यक्रम के बाद किसी दिन रिटायर हो जाता है। वह अपने करियर के साथ-साथ अच्छा सम्मान नाम, प्रसिद्धि और आजीविका कमाता है। और अचानक जब उसे पता चलता है कि उसकी सेवानिवृत्ति के बाद कुछ करने के लिए बहुत कुछ नहीं है, तो वह घर के कामों में व्यस्त हो जाता है और खुद को अपने कब्जे में रखने की कोशिश करता है।

जब समय बीतता है, वह समझता है कि वह अपने परिवार के लिए उतना महत्वपूर्ण नहीं है जितना कि वह अपनी सेवानिवृत्ति से पहले हुआ करता था। वह धीरे-धीरे डिप्रेशन में जाने लगता है। जीवन के इस चरण में उसे कुछ भी नहीं रुचता क्योंकि उसके बच्चे भी उसकी उपेक्षा करते हैं। ऐसी स्थितियों में, वह कई अन्य बीमारियों से ग्रस्त हो जाता है और बीमार पड़ जाता है। उनके बच्चे अब अपने माता-पिता के बजाय अपने परिवारों को महत्व देते हैं।

इसलिए, खुद को अर्जित करते समय, खुद को अपने कब्जे में रखने के लिए, उन्हें अपनी सेवानिवृत्ति की योजना बनानी होगी। वे या तो अपनी कमाई को सेवानिवृत्ति की नीतियों में डाल सकते हैं जो उन्हें सेवानिवृत्ति के बाद हर महीने उनके वेतन के बराबर राशि देती है, या वे अपनी रुचि के किसी भी व्यवसाय की योजना बना सकते हैं या संपत्ति में निवेश कर सकते हैं और उन्हें किराए पर ले सकते हैं ताकि सेवानिवृत्ति के बाद उनका जीवन भी हो पहले की तरह कब्जा कर लिया।

इसलिए ऐसी अप्रत्याशित परिस्थितियों से बचने के लिए, किसी को अतिरिक्त सतर्क रहना होगा ताकि जीवन में बाद में कोई पछतावा न हो।

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 A person works hard all his life for his and his family's livelihood. In this span, he goes through the different phases, he faces many up's and down's and emerges as a winner all through. As he is the bread earner of his family, he takes every situation optimistically so that he would not lose his livelihood and tries his best to reach that higher and higher positions. However, there are many instances, where he has to go through many tough times like firing the employees due to recommendations, nepotism, favoritism, partiality or bribery, etc.

Every person has a dream to get a good job in a reputed organization. To fulfil this, he undergoes good education from well-known universities with meritorious grades. But sometimes even after putting so much effort, one faces failures in the name of favouritism, nepotism bribing, and other personal favours. Not only that, but his good performance also will be underestimated due to such evils of society. If any company judges its employees based on these factors instead of their actual performances and problem-solving abilities, it can be understood that no wonder it would get into loss and lose the real gems.                                                 

No matter what, one goes through all these situations to keep earning for his family. He keeps facing all these odds and struggles to get increments and promotions. He does all the hard work and stands rock solid for his family. 

And ultimately, he retires someday after a long duration of hard work and a busy schedule. He earns good respect name, fame, and livelihood all along his career. And suddenly when he realizes that there's nothing much to do after retirement, he gets busy with household chores and tries to keep himself occupied.

When the time passes, he understands that he's not as important to his family as he used to be before. He slowly starts getting into depression. Nothing interests him in this phase as his children too ignore him. In such situations, he gets prone to different ailments and falls sick. His children too give attention to their families rather than their parents.

Therefore, while earning itself one have to plan for their retirement, to keep themselves occupied even after retirement. They can either put their earnings in retirement policies which gives them the amount equal to their salaries every month after retirement too, or they could plan for any business of their interest or invest in the properties and rent them or invest in mutual funds, so that their life after retirement too would be as occupied and fruitful as before.

Hence to avoid such unforeseen circumstances, one has to be extra cautious so that there would be no regret in life later. And spend their personal space with their loved ones which they lapsed at the time of their service, and rejuvenate their lives. 

                                             

 

Business politics & Rivalry

व्यवसाय करने में रुचि रखने वाले लोग, अपने व्यवसाय के लिए अपने व्यवसाय के लिए आवश्यक सभी चीजों को जमा करके, अपने संपत्तियों और गहनों को बेचकर, इत्यादि से अपने व्यवसाय को शुरू कर सकते हैं, ताकि एक दिन उनका व्यवसाय आसमान पर पहुंच जाए। स्तर और वे व्यापार की दुनिया में एक सफल नाम बन जाते हैं। हालांकि, कुछ लोग हैं जो इस भयानक रूप से विफल हो जाते हैं और थोड़े समय के भीतर भारी नुकसान का सामना करते हैं जिसके कारण वे अपना व्यवसाय बंद कर देते हैं और कुछ और करना शुरू कर देते हैं।

यदि कोई व्यवसाय करने का निर्णय लेता है, तो उन्हें पहले कुछ बाजार अनुसंधान, उस विशेष धारा में उनकी विशेषज्ञता, लाभ और हानि का प्रबंधन करने की उनकी क्षमता, कर्मचारियों को संभालने के लिए उनकी बुद्धिमत्ता, कर्मचारियों को खुश रखने की उनकी बुद्धिमत्ता को जानना चाहिए। समय-समय पर उन्हें प्रोत्साहन और बोनस का भुगतान करना, कर्मचारियों को उच्च स्तर पर बढ़ावा देना अगर वे नए स्तरों को प्राप्त करते हैं, सभी पहलुओं में समय की पाबंदी बनाए रखते हैं, कर्मचारियों के लिए भुगतान किए जाने वाले वेतन की तलाश करते हैं, आदि, तो वे इकट्ठा होने लगते हैं। उनके ग्राहक और उनके ब्रांड को बड़ा और प्रसिद्ध बनाने पर काम करते हैं।

जबकि वे अपने व्यवसाय पर अधिक से अधिक ध्यान केंद्रित करने में व्यस्त होंगे, साथ ही वे प्रतिद्वंद्वी बनाना शुरू कर देंगे। बाजार में पहले से ही एक निश्चित स्तर बनाए रखने के लिए, प्रतिस्पर्धी बनने के लिए लोगों के लिए यह स्पष्ट है। और इस प्रकार, वे अपने ब्रांड को अभी भी अधिक दिलचस्प और अभिनव बनाना शुरू करते हैं। और अगर मौजूदा ब्रांड को पता चलता है कि उनके ब्रांड का नाम थोड़ा भी प्रभावित हो रहा है, तो वे पेशेवर नैतिकता के खिलाफ जाकर राजनीति करना शुरू कर देते हैं और बाजार में उस ब्रांड के नाम को बर्बाद करते हैं जो न्यूनतम विवरण को इंगित करते हैं जो उनके ब्रांड को प्रतिकूल रूप से प्रभावित कर सकते हैं।

और कभी-कभी नए ब्रांड को सब कुछ जानने के बाद भी चुप रहना पड़ता है। जैसा कि वे सोचते हैं कि वे उस ब्रांड से नहीं लड़ सकते जो पहले से ही इतने सालों से बाजार में मौजूद है। उन्हें लगता है कि बाजार पर उनकी अच्छी पकड़ है और वे पहले से ही इतने मजबूत हैं कि वे इस तरह की बड़ी मछलियों से नहीं लड़ सकते हैं और सही समय का इंतजार करते हैं और अपने व्यवसाय को ऊंचा उठाने का प्रयास करते रहते हैं। कभी-कभी वे नए व्यवसाय पर मुकदमा भी करते हैं, जिसके बाद अगर वे भी अपनी बात साबित करते हैं, तो वे पहले ही अपने कई ग्राहकों को खुद को सही साबित करने के लिए खो देते हैं। और बाजार में एक अच्छा नाम स्थापित करने में फिर से लंबा समय लगता है।

इसलिए यदि कोई व्यक्ति व्यापार की दुनिया में प्रवेश कर रहा है, तो उन्हें सभी रणनीति के साथ मजबूत नेतृत्व और अच्छी तरह से वाकिफ होना चाहिए और अपने रास्ते में आने वाली किसी भी तरह की चुनौती का सामना करने के लिए तैयार रहना चाहिए। तभी वे सफल हो सकते हैं और अपने व्यवसायों में नई ऊंचाइयों को प्राप्त कर सकते हैं।

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People interested in doing business, start-up their business right from the scratch accumulating all the necessary things required for their business, by taking loans, selling their properties and jewelry, etc., so that one day their business would reach the sky-high level and they become a successful name in the world of business. However, there are a few people who fail in this terribly and face huge losses within a short span of time due to which they shut down their business and start doing something else.

If one decides to do business, they should first know the demand of that business by doing some market research, their expertise in that particular stream, their ability to manage the profits and losses, their intelligence to handle the staff, keeping the staff happy by paying them the incentives and bonuses from time to time, promoting the staff to the higher level if they achieve the new levels, maintaining punctuality in all aspects, looking up for the salaries to be paid for the staff, etc. Next, they start gathering their clients and work on making their brand big and famous.

While they will be busy focusing more and more on their business, simultaneously they begin to make rivals. It is obvious for the people already there in the market to maintain a certain level, to become competitors. And thus, they start making their brand still more interesting and innovative. And if the existing brands realize that their brand name is getting affected even slightly, they start doing politics by going against the professional ethics and ruin the name of that brand in the market by pointing out the minutest details that can affect their brand adversely.

And sometimes the new brand has to keep silent even after knowing everything. As they think that they cannot fight with the brand which is already existing in the market for so many years. They know that they have a good grip over the market and they cannot fight with such big fishes and wait for the right time and keep striving to elevate their business. Sometimes they also sue the new business, after which if they even prove their point, they already lose their numerous customers in the span of proving themselves right. And it again takes a long time in establishing a good name in the market. 

Hence if someone is entering into the world of business, they should be strong headed and well versed with all the tactics and should be ready to face any kind of challenge that comes in their way. Then only they can become successful and achieve new heights in their businesses.

Immature & Irresponsible people

आजकल के युवा अपने फैसले खुद लेना चाहते हैं। ऐसा करना उनका अधिकार है, और वे ऐसा करते हैं। लेकिन ज्यादातर समय, उनके फैसले गलत साबित होते हैं, और उनकी निविदा उम्र और बेगुनाही के कारण केवल खुद को नुकसान पहुंचाते हैं।

न केवल किशोर गलत फैसले लेते हैं, बल्कि कभी-कभी यह देखा जाता है कि बहुत से बुजुर्ग भी ऐसा करते हैं। यदि कोई व्यक्ति दुनिया की क्रूरता से अच्छी तरह से वाकिफ नहीं है, तो वे ऐसा करते हैं। और जो लोग रोज इस दुनिया की व्यावहारिकता से निपटते हैं, वे सही फैसले लेते हैं। इसीलिए जब परिवार और उनकी भलाई के लिए फैसले लेने की बात आती है, तो हम अक्सर परिवार के पुरुष सदस्यों की तरफ देखते हैं। वे संयुक्त रूप से एक साथ बैठते हैं और सटीक निर्णय लेते हैं।

अपने जीवनसाथी के साथ रहकर, कुछ औसत बुद्धिमान महिलाएं समय के साथ समझदार हो जाती हैं और समस्याओं से सही तरीके से निपटना शुरू कर देती हैं। लेकिन यह अक्सर देखा जाता है कि कुछ लोग इतने अपरिपक्व होते हैं, कि परिपक्व लोगों के साथ लंबा समय बिताने के बाद भी, वे लगातार अपनी गलतियों को दोहराते रहते हैं और न केवल शिक्षा और परिपक्वता के कारण अपने स्वयं के जीवन को बल्कि अपने प्रियजनों के जीवन को भी नष्ट कर देते हैं। । जैसा कि वे जीवन में गलत चीजों को प्राथमिकता देते हैं।

कुछ लोग अपने जीवन साथी को खोने के बाद इतने अवसाद में आ जाते हैं कि वे परिवार के बाकी सदस्यों की ज़िम्मेदारी लेना बंद कर देते हैं, और उन्हें भगवान के पास छोड़ देते हैं। यदि बच्चे बुद्धिमान और पर्याप्त भाग्यशाली हैं, तो वे अपनी कठिनाइयों के साथ मिलेंगे, अन्यथा, वे बुरी तरह से विफल हो जाते हैं।

इसलिए, यह कहा जाता है कि अगर कोई व्यक्ति शिक्षित है या नहीं, अगर वह परिवार से अच्छा है या नहीं, अगर वह अच्छा दिख रहा है या नहीं, तो व्यक्ति को अपने जीवन के विवादों और गड़बड़ियों को संभालने के लिए पर्याप्त बुद्धिमान और बुद्धिमान होना चाहिए और एक के रूप में उभरना

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Youngsters nowadays, want to take up their decisions by themselves. It is their right to do so, and they do it. But most of the time, their decisions prove to be wrong, and harm themselves, due to their tender age and innocence. 

Not only teenagers take the wrong decisions, but sometimes it is witnessed that many elders too do it. If a person is not well versed with the brutality of the world they tend to do it. And the people who daily deal with the practicality , take the right decisions. That is why when it comes to taking the decisions for the family and their well-being, we often look up to the male members of the family. Everyone jointly sits together and take up the accurate decisions.

By living with their spouses over the period of time, some averagely intelligent women too become wiser. And start dealing with the problems the right way. But it is noticed often that few people are so immature, that even after spending a long time with mature people, they continuously keep repeating their mistakes and not only destroy their own lives but also their loved one's lives, due to lack of education and maturity. As they give priority to the wrong things in life.

Some people, after losing their partners, get into so much depression that they stop taking responsibility for the rest of the family, and leave them to God. If the children are wise and lucky enough, they will get along with their difficulties, otherwise, they fail miserably.

Hence, it is said that if a person is educated or not, if he is from well to do family or not, if he is good looking or not, one should be wise and intelligent enough to handle the disputes and disturbances of his life which can destroy him and emerge as a winner.

Single or Being Married

हर किसी के जीवन में विवाह एक महत्वपूर्ण संस्थान है। हर कोई किसी न किसी दिन शादी करता है, लेकिन कुछ अपना पूरा जीवन सिर्फ एक सिंगल होने में बिताते हैं, एक सही साथी की तलाश में या अन्य कारणों जैसे करियर, ज़िम्मेदारियों के कारण या उन्हें अकेले रहने में खुशी मिलती है।

कुछ लोग इसे जीवन के शुरुआती चरणों में और दूसरों को करते हैं, बाद में करते हैं। हम में से कुछ भी अपने माता-पिता की सहमति से शादी करते हैं, मैं, एक अरेंज मैरिज करता हूं, जहां माता-पिता द्वारा परिचय के बाद या उनकी शादी के बाद जोड़े को एक-दूसरे का पता चलता है। हालाँकि, कुछ शादियाँ जीवन भर चलती हैं और कुछ सालों, महीनों या हफ्तों तक भी चलती हैं।

हम में से ज्यादातर लोग लव मैरिज करते हैं, अपने जीवन साथी खुद चुनकर। कुछ की व्यवस्था की जाएगी और बाकी लोग अपने जीवन को सही व्यक्ति की तलाश में बिताएंगे या 50 या 60 के दशक के बाद की उम्र में भी शादी करेंगे।

अपनी मर्जी से शादी करने के बाद भी, कुछ समझ और संगतता की कमी के कारण तलाक में समाप्त हो जाते हैं। यद्यपि वे शादी से पहले और कुछ महीनों या वर्षों के लिए मिलते हैं, वे एक दूसरे के प्रति जिम्मेदारी की भावना विकसित नहीं करते हैं या अपने मतभेदों को सुलझाने की कोशिश नहीं करते हैं। बच्चों के आशीर्वाद के बाद भी कुछ एक-दूसरे को तलाक देंगे।

इस तरह की असफल शादियां बच्चों की मानसिकता पर बहुत बुरा प्रभाव डालती हैं और वे एक अधूरा बचपन बिताएंगे। कुछ विवाहित जोड़े के दांपत्य जीवन में दोनों पक्षों के माता-पिता के अतिरेक के कारण टूट जाते हैं, अनुभव के नाम पर और उन्हें सही तरीके से मार्गदर्शन करने के लिए।

सबसे पहले और सबसे महत्वपूर्ण, माता-पिता को यह समझना होगा कि जब एक जोड़े की शादी होती है, तो उनका विवाह खुद उन्हें एक दर्जन से अधिक तरीके सिखाता है ताकि वे अपना जीवन सही तरीके से व्यतीत कर सकें। और अगर उन्हें किसी भी मार्गदर्शन, मदद या सहायता की आवश्यकता है, तो उन्हें किसी की भावनाओं या भावनाओं को आहत किए बिना या पूरी तरह से इसे प्रदान करने के लिए तैयार रहना चाहिए।

और अगर दंपति के बीच मतभेद हैं, तो बुजुर्गों को अपने अनुभवों को सामने रखना चाहिए कि कैसे उन्होंने अपनी विविधता को हल किया और उनके बीच आपसी समझ और विश्वास को बढ़ावा देने में उनकी समस्याओं को सुलझाने में मदद की।

कुछ विवाह जो तलाक में समाप्त होते हैं, उनमें से कोई भी माता-पिता अपने बच्चों को हिरासत में लेते हैं और उन्हें अकेले में पाला पोसा करते हैं। और अगर उस समय माता-पिता की शादी हो जाती है, तो बच्चों को बचपन में कठिन समय का सामना करना पड़ता है, जो उनके जीवन को दबा देता है और उन्हें उदास वयस्क बना देता है।

इसलिए, युगल को विवाह के मूल्य को समझना चाहिए और संतोष के साथ अपने जीवन के बाकी हिस्सों को खुशी से बिताना चाहिए। और अगर कोई बाधा या दुर्घटना घटती है, तो उन्हें खुद से निपटना सीखना चाहिए और किसी को भी अपने जीवन में शामिल नहीं होने देना चाहिए, जिससे वे अपने स्वयं के जीवन को नष्ट कर सकें।

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Marriage is an important institution in everybody's life. Everyone gets married some or the other day, but few also spend their whole lives being just single, in search of a right partner or due to other reasons like career, responsibilities or they find happiness being alone.

Some people perform it in the early stages of life and others, do it later. Few of us also marry with our parent's consent, I,e an arranged marriage where the couple gets to know each other after an introduction by parents or after their marriage. However, some marriages last a life long and few just for years, months, or weeks also.

Most of us perform love marriages, by choosing our life partners by ourselves. Some will be arranged and the rest will spend their lives in search of the right person or will marry even in the older ages like after their 50's or 60's also. 

Even after undergoing the marriages with their own consent, some end up in divorces, due to a lack of understanding and compatibility. Although they meet up much before marriage and date for a few months or years, they do not develop that sense of responsibility towards each other or try to sort out their differences. Some will divorce each other after they're blessed with children too.

Such failed marriages will have a huge negative impact on the children's mentality and they'll spend an incomplete childhood. Some marriages break up due to the overindulgence of either side parents in the couple's married life, in the name of experience and guiding them the right way.

First and foremost, parents have to understand that when a couple gets married, their marriage itself teaches them more than a dozen ways to spend their lives the right way. And if at all they need any guidance, help, or support, they should be ready to provide it wholeheartedly without hurting or suppressing anybody's emotions or feelings. 

And if at all there are differences between the couple, the elders should put forth their own experiences about how they solved their own diversities and help them settle their problems promoting mutual understanding and trust between them.

In some marriages that end up in divorce, either of the parents takes custody of their children and bring them up single-handedly. And if at all that parent gets married, the children have to face a tough time throughout their childhood, which suppresses their lives and makes them the depressed adults.

Hence, the couple must understand the value of marriage and spend the rest of their lives happily with contentment. And if any hurdles or accidents occur, they should learn to deal with them themselves and do not let anyone get too much involved in their lives letting them destruct their own lives.

Foreign Country or Motherland

हम सभी के पास अमीर और प्रसिद्ध बनने के लिए बचपन से ही कई आकांक्षाएं हैं। इसके लिए, हममें से कुछ लोग विदेशों में बड़ी कमाई करने का विकल्प चुनते हैं, और बाकी अपनी मातृभूमि पर टिक जाते हैं। हालांकि, ऐसे कई उदाहरण हैं, जहां से विदेशों में प्रवास करने वाले लोग वापस आजते हैं, क्योंकि वे वहां घर का अनुभव नही  करपाते हैं।

यह हमारे समाज में भी देखा जाता है कि, विदेशो  में बसने वाले व्यक्ति का  बहुत सम्मान होता है। वह हमेशा किसी भी कार्य या सभा आदि के लिए प्राथमिकता में सबसे ऊपर रखा जाता है। हमने अपने बचपन में भी ऐसा ही किया था, क्युकी कि हमें लगता है कि उन्होंने दुनिया को देखा है और जीवन को व्यापक परिप्रेक्ष्य पर अनुभव किया है, अपने परिवार के बंधन को छोड़कर , हर छोटी चीज़ से जूझते हुए वहाँ अकेले रहे है 

शिक्षा की बेहतर गुणवत्ता, नौकरियों के लिए बेहतर संभावनाएं, बेहतर जीवन स्तर, बेहतर आय आदि जैसे प्रमुख कारकों के कारण विदेशो में करियर की खोज की जा रही है। प्रत्येक व्यक्ति का अधिकार है की वो बडे सपने देखे । और इसे संभव बनाने के लिए, वह इसे आगे की पढ़ाई करके और वहाँ खुद को बसाने के लिए आगे ले जाता है।

और कुछ जो नई जगहों पर नहीं बस पाते हैं वे अकेलेपन, सांस्कृतिक झटके, जलवायु परिवर्तन से परेशान हो जाते हैं, और सबसे अधिक वे वहां अपने घर की कमी महसूस कारते हैं और नए माहौल के साथ तालमेल नहीं बिठा पाते हैं। परिणामस्वरूप वे अपने गृह देश में वापस आ जाते हैं और अपने परिवार के साथ रहना शुरू कर देते हैं, जिससे यात्रा और स्थानांतरण की प्रक्रिया में खर्च किए गए सभी पैसे, समय और प्रयास बर्बाद हो जाते हैं।

फिर भी, एक व्यक्ति जो अपने गृहनगर में शिक्षा प्राप्त करता है, वह कभी-कभी उतना ही बुद्धिमान या योग्य होता है जितना कि विदेश में अध्ययन करने वाला। अपने देश को छोड़कर उच्च आय के लिए दूसरे देश की सेवा करना  ख़ुदग़र्ज़ी लगता है । इसके बजाय, कोई भी अपनी शिक्षा पश्चिमी देशों में करके अपने राष्ट्र की सेवा उन क्षेत्रों में कर सकता है जहाँ उसका पेशा गरीबों की सेवा करने और अपने देश के मानकों को ऊंचा उठाने और अपने राष्ट्र के उत्थान में भूमिका निभाने की होनि चाहिए।

इसलिए जहां भी कोई व्यक्ति अध्ययन करता है, या व्यवस्थित हो जाता है। उसे अपने राष्ट्र की बेहतरी के लिए इसका उपयोग करना  चाहिए बजाय उन देशों में स्थानांतरित करने के जो पहले से ही विकसित और उन्नत हैं।

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We all have many aspirations right from our childhood to become rich and famous. For this, some of us choose to settle down in foreign countries earning big, and the rest stick up to their homeland. However, there are many instances where people who migrate to foreign countries come back, as they feel homesick there. 

It is also noticed in our society that, there's great respect for the person who settles down abroad. He is always put on the top in priority for any functions or gatherings etc,.Even we did the same in our childhood, as we feel that they've seen the world and have experienced life on a broader perspective, forgoing their family bonding, living alone there struggling with every little thing.

One picks up the career in foreign countries due to major factors like better quality of education, better prospects for jobs, better standard of living, better income etc, Dreaming big is the right of every human. And to make it possible, he takes it further by studying there and settling down there itself.

And a few who cannot accommodate in new places get troubled by the loneliness, the cultural shock, the climatic changes, and most of all they get homesick there and cannot tune in with the new atmosphere. As a result, they come back to their home country and start living with their family, wasting all the money, time, and efforts spent in the process of traveling and shifting there.

Nevertheless, a person who educates in his hometown is sometimes equally intelligent or qualified as compared to the one who studied abroad. Leaving one's own country and serving the other country for high-income looks mean seldom. Instead, one can get his education done in the western countries and serve his own nation in the areas where his profession is in demand serving the poor, and elevating his country's standards, and playing a role in the upliftment of his own nation.

Hence wherever a person studies, or gets settled. He has to strive for utilizing it for the betterment of his own nation rather than shifting to the countries where they are already developed and advanced.

Children-Better Future

Jaesa ki ham sabhee jaanate hain ki bachche kisee bhee desh ka bhavishy hote hain. islie, unke parivaaron, skoolon aur sarakaar ke lie yah anivaary hai ki ve unke svaasthy, adhyayan, kalyaan aur anya sabhee pahluon par adhik dhyaan kendrit karen. Yah hamaaree zimmedaaree hai ki ham unke bachpan ko bharpur tarahse viksit honede, aur unhe achchhe sanskar, evam unmen naitikata, ke bhav paedakare taki hamaara kal bhi behtar hosake.

Hum unke bachpan se hee samajh sakte hai ki ek bachcha kya hai, vah apane bhavishy mein kya banega, vah apne jeevan mein kahaan tak pohonchega. Haalaanki, kaee bachche hain jo aashcharyajanak roop se bade naam ban jaate hain, aur kuchh apratyaashit roop se apanee seema kam karate hain aur sthitiyon mein samaayojit hote hain.

Ghar bachchon ke lie Pahala Skool hai. Ve yahi se sab kuchh seekhne lagte hain. Bachcha jo bhee vyavahaar karata hai, usaka shrey seedhe usake maata-pita ko jaata hai. Yadi koi bachcha achchhee tarah se sanchaalit hota hai, to isaka saara shrey usake maata-pita ko jaata hai aur yadi Vah bura vyavhar karta hai, tab bhee vahee niyam laagoo hota hai. Islie, maata-pita ke lie yah mahatvapoorn hai ki ve unki paravarish par adhik dhyaan kendrit karen aur unke bachpan ki suraksha karen. Ek bachche ko hamesha ek sthir bachpan jeena chahye. Yadi uska ashaant vaataavaran mein paalan poshan hota hai, to vah anirnay aur ekaagrata ke nichale sthar ke saath vyathit vayask ban jaata hai.

Kaee bachche bachpan mein apne maata-pita ya apne skool ke shikshakon ya doston ya apane rishtedaaron aadi se shaareerik evam maanasik utpeedan ka saamana karte hain, itna hee nahin, maata-pita ke beech kee samasyaen, jhagade aur tark bhee bachche kee maanasikata par nakaaraatmak prabhaav daalte hain. Aksar, bhaee-bahan bhee chhote bachchon ko behtar shishtaachaar, evam anushaasan ke naam par dabaane kee koshish karate hain, jiske kaaran unaka bachapan dab jaata hai aur ve apane lie ek behatar bhavishy ka chunav karneme sankoch karte hain. Isase bachche kee kshamta pooree tarah se charamara jaatee hai.

Isalie, maata-pita ko apane matabhedon ko apane bachchon par kabhee prabhaav nahin daalane dena chaahie, aur unkee samasyaon ko ek alag sthaan par sulajhaana chaahie, lekin unake saamane kabhi nahin. Aur yah bhee ki unhen har bachche par najar rakhanee chaahie aur kisee ke bhee aatmavishvaas ko tutne nahin dena chaahie. Chahe wo unke bhaee-bahan, dost ya unke rishtedaar aadi hon. Yah ek maata-pita kee jimmedaaree hai ki ve ek bachche ko poorn, khushahaal aur jeevant bachapan den.

Kaee jagahon par, maata-pita unki ghareebi ke chalte, apane bachchon ko kam umr se hi kaam karane ke liye bhejte hae. Aise deshon mein, sarakaar ko apne desh ke bachchon ke shaikshik bojh ko kam karne mein madad karne ke lie unhen chhaatravrtti aur dhan pradaan karake gareeb bachchon ke shiksha ke pratishat ko badhaane ke lie niyam laagoo karane chaahie, aur unhen ek anamol aur moolyavaan bachapan dena chaahie. 

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We all know that children are the future of any country. So, it is imperative for their families, schools, and the government to focus more on their health, studies, well-being, and all the other aspects. It is our responsibility to nurture their childhood cater for their necessities, imbibe good morals, and ethics in them, for our better tomorrow. 

It is from their childhood itself one can understand what a child is up to, what he would become in his future, where he would land up in his career or life. However, many children surprisingly become bigger names, and a few unexpectedly lower their limits and adjust to situations.

Home is the first school for children. They start learning everything from there itself. Whatever way a child behaves, its credit goes directly to his parents. If a child is well manned, all the credit goes to his parents and if he's ill-mannered, the same rule applies. So, parents must concentrate more on their upbringing and nourish their childhood. A child should always have a steady childhood, where he could make his identity and individuality. If he is brought up in a disturbed environment, he becomes a distressed adult with indecisiveness and lower levels of concentration, and hindered confidence.

Many children face physical and mental abuse in their childhood from either their parents or their school teachers or friends or their relatives etc. Not just that, the problems, fights, and arguments between the parents also negatively impact the child's mentality. Often, the siblings also try to suppress the younger ones in the name of better manners, etiquette, and discipline due to which their childhood gets suppressed and they hesitate to choose better options for themselves. This results in the child's potential being completely crushed down.

Hence, parents should never let their differences affect their children, and sort out their problems in a separate place, but not in front of them. And also they should keep an eye on every child and do not let anyone break their self-confidence. Be it their siblings, friends, or their relatives, etc. It is a parent's responsibility to give a child a complete, happy, and lively childhood.

In many places, parents send their children to work from an early age because of their poverty. In such countries, the government should impose rules to uplift the poor children's percentage of education by providing them the scholarships and funds to help them lessen their children's educational burden, and give them a precious and valuable childhood.

Better Leaders-Men Or Women

Mahila ya purush jo netrtv, buddhimatta, utkrshtata, imaanadari, aur any gunon ke maamale mein behatar hain, hamesha charcha ka vishay raha hain. Bhale hee purush aur mahila donon samaan yogyata ke saath paida hue hain, phir bhee kuchh sthaan aise hain jahaan purush utkrshtata praapt karate hain aur kuchh jahaan mahilaen. Haalaanki, kaamkaajee purushon aur mahilaon ka pratishat kaee deshon mein unakee paramparaon aur sanskrti ke antar ke kaaran bhinn hota hai.

Mahilaen apne kaam ke lie adhik pratibaddh hain aur keval apanee pariyojanaon ke poora hone ke baad hi aaraam kartee hain. Jabaki purush samay-samay par apane brek chaahate hain aur unakee ekaagrata ka sthar bhee bhinn hota hai. Aur isliye kaam poora hone mein lagane vaala samay bhee thoda lamba hota hai. Itna hee nahin balki unake kaam kee sateekata ke sthar, nikaale gae deta, paalan kee gaee prakriya, aadi kee tulana mein purushon kee tulana mein behatar hoga kyonki mahilaon ko gunavatta vaale kaam dene ke lie baadhy kiya jaata hai aur ve apna kam prastut karne se pahale apane asainament ko aashvast aur punar aashvast karte hain.

Mahilaon ko aksar maltee-taaskars ke roop mein naamit kiya jaata hai, kyonki ve apane vyaktigat aur vyaavasaayik jeevan donon ko dekhate hain, ishtatam javaabadehee ke saath. Jabaki purush chaahate hain ki unkee adhikaansh zimmedaariyaan unake jeevanasaathee sambhaalen kyonki ve keval apane kaam par dhyaan kendrit kar sakate hain.

Utkrsht hone kee pratispardha mein kisee bhee sankhya mein sarvekshan karen, koee bhee is tathy ko kabhee bhee anadekha nahin kar sakata hai ki unakee raay, paravarish, ya samudaay mein kitana hi antar kyuna ho, purush aur mahila donon ek doosare par nirbhar hain. Raashtron ke suchaaroo kaamkaaj, ya vibhinn anya dhaaraon ke jaese doston se parivaar se lekar naukaree tak koee bhee iske bina jeevit nahin rah sakata hai. jab donon kaam mein haath bantaate hain, tabhee koee bhi mishan saphal hopata hai. 

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Women or men who are better in terms of leadership, intelligence, excellence, sincerity, honesty, and other qualities, have always been a matter of discussion. Even though both men and women are born with equal competencies, there are few places where men excel and a few where women. However, the percentage of working women vary in many countries due to the differences in their traditions and culture.

Women are more committed to their work and only relax after the completion of their projects. Whereas men want their breaks from time to time and their concentration levels also differ. And hence the time taken for completion of work also is a little longer. Not only that but the accuracy levels of their work, the data extracted, the procedure adhered to, etc will be better than men as women are bound to deliver the quality work and they assure and reassure their assignments before submission.

Women are often titled as multi-taskers, as they look after their personal and professional lives both, with optimum accountability. Whereas men want most of their responsibilities to be handled by their spouses at a personal level, as they can concentrate only on their work.

Let any number of surveys be conducted in the competition of being excellent, one can never ignore the fact that, how much ever they differ in their opinion, upbringing, race or community, men and women both are interdependent on each other. One can never survive without the other be it from friends to family to jobs to society to the smooth functioning of nations, or various other sectors. When both work together hand in hand, then only any mission can succeed.

Hypocrites,politics & Toxic people.

Duniya paakhandiyon se bharee hui hai. Yahaan koee jagah aisi nahin hai, jahaan aap unhen nahin paaen. Ve sabhee jagah phaile hue hain, Logon ke jeevan ko kaee tarah se prabhaavit karte hue. Hum bachapan se hee har sthar par unka saamana karte hain, jab tak ki vayask nahin ho jaate, yah hamaara parivaar, kaaryasthal, mitr hamaare rishtedaaron se lekar hamaare padosee, aadi paae jate hae.

Paakhandee log raajaneeti khelane mein mahir hote hain. Is tarah ve apane lakshyon ko praapt karne kee disha mein apna maarg prashast karte hain. Yadi aap apane dainik jeevan mein nireekshan karte hain, to aap unhen har jagah apane aasapaas paenge. Ve huk ya kuk dvaara apanee cheejen praapt karenge. Aise log yah nahin dekhate ki unake jiddi ravaiye ka unke aasapaas ke logon par kya asar padata hai. Jab tak ve apna lakshya paa nahin lete, tab tak ve waesehi kam jari rakhte hae.

Apne lakshyon ko praapt karane ke lie jiddee hona achchha bhi hai. Lekin kisee ke jeevan ko pratikool roop se prabhaavit kie bina. yadi yah doosare ke jeevan ko kharaab karke aapko apne sapanon aur ichchhaon ko praapt karata hai, to yah bekaar hai. Aisee saphalata ka koee mooly nahin hai. Aur yah lambe samay tak nahin rahati hai. Saath hee, aap un logon ka bhi saamana karenge jo aapkee saphalata se eershya karate hain. Behatar yehi hai ki unhen apnee aage kee yojanaon ke baare mein na jaanen den aur unhen kuchh seemaon tak seemit rakhen.

Aap unhen apne kaaryakshetr mein bhee paate hain, raajaneeti mein ve jis padh ka sapna dekhate hain use paane ke lie sahee ya galat kuch bhi tareeke apnaate hain. Aisee jagahon par, nirnayakartaon ko vaastavikata aur chal ke beech antar karne ke lie paryaapt buddhimaan hona chaahie. Aur sahee phaisale lena chahye taaki maanavata aur achchhe bhaagy par logon ka vishvaas bahaal ho. Haalaanki, kaaryaalay kee raajaneeti ik kroorata hai jo harek ko apanee aajeevika kamaane ke lie saamana karana padata hai.

Apne uddeshyon ko praapt karane ke lie kisee vyakti ke charitr mein aisee cheejon ko apnana buree baat nahin hai, lekin doosaron ko haani pahunchae bina. Is tarah aapkee saphalata jeevan bhar ke lie phaladaayee ho jaegee. Lekin, ek vyakti jo ise nahin seekhpata hai, ek ghareebi jeevan jeeta hai aur pooree duniya unaka upyog karke unhe phenk detee hai.

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The world is full of hypocrites. There's no such place, where you cannot find them. They are spread all over, affecting the lives of people in many ways.  We face them at every stage right from our childhood till becoming adults be it our family, workplace, friends or relatives, or our neighbors.

Hypocrites are very good at playing politics. That is how they pave their way towards achieving their goals. If you observe them in your daily lives, you'll find them surrounding you everywhere. They will get their things done either by hook or cook. Such people do not see how their stubborn attitude affects the people around them. They keep on doing what they want to, till they grab it. 

Being stubborn is good to achieve your targets or dreams. But without impacting anyone adversely. If it spoils other's lives letting you achieve your dreams and desires, it's worth waste. There's no value for such success. And this doesn't last long. Also, you will come across people who are envious of your success. It's better not to let them know about your further plans and limit them to certain boundaries.

You find such toxic people in your workplaces too, playing politics to get to the position they dream of, either by following a right or a wrong method. In such scenarios, the decision-makers should be wise enough to make the difference between reality & fakeness. And take the correct decisions so that people's faith in humanity & good fate would be preserved. However, office politics is the brutality one has to face to earn their livelihood.

Imbibing such things in one's character for overcoming their daily problems is not a bad thing. But without harming others. That is how your success will become fruitful for life long. Otherwise, an innocent person who doesn't know such things leads to a troublesome life. And the whole world uses them and throws them away after use.

Thus one should be aware and alert on how to face such toxic people and their tactics. And safeguard themselves and their loved ones from their dirty games. 

Personality Development

Ek achchha vyaktitv vah hai jo log kisee bhee vyakti mein dekhate hain. kisee bhee star kee naukaree ke lie, sarakaaree naukaree ke saakshaatkaar ya shaadee ke gathabandhan aadi ke lie achchhe karmachaariyon ko kaam par rakhane se lekar dostee karane tak.

Ek prabhaavashaalee vyaktitv banane ke lie is tarah ke kathin aur tez niyam nahin hain. ekamaatr mahatvapoorn baat yah hai ki jis sthaan par aap hain, usaka mahatv jaanana chaahie, naukaree kee aavashyakataon ke lie heging aur kuchh takaneekee gyaan kee maang, aapako aage badhane mein madad kar sakatee hai.

Iske lie, bahut saare sansthaan sthaapit kie gae hain, jo apane kairiyar ke vikaas ke lie ek vyakti ke jeevant vyaktitv ko vikasit karane ka vaada karate hain. yah kamaee ka ek aur tareeka hai, jisamen ve kuchh hailait kie gae paathyakramon jaise ki bole jaane vaale angrejee, vyaavasaayik sanchaar, kuchh buniyaadee teleefonik etikets aur kuchh praathamik softaveyar anuprayogon ko samooheekrt karate hain aur ummeedavaaron se ek uchit raashi lete hain.

Ek vyakti is tarah kee chunautiyon ke lie khud ko taiyaar kar sakata hai, bajaay isake ki aise sansthaan shaamil hon jo vyaktiyon kee gaadhee kamaee ko barbaad karate hain. yadi kisee vyakti ne bachapan se hee angrejee maadhyam se padhaee kee hai, to usake lie bolee jaane vaalee angrejee ya vyaavasaayik sanchaar kee koee aavashyakata nahin honee chaahie. isake bajaay, vah kisee bhee sangathan mein shaamil hone ke baad in cheejon ko seekh sakata hai.

Aashvast hona aur aavashyak adyatanon ko praapt karana aur samay-samay par apane kaushal ko unnat karana ek vyakti ko vaanchhit naukaree aur bhoomika pradaan kar sakata hai jo vah shuruaat se sapana dekh raha tha.

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A good personality is what people look for in any individual. From making friendships to hiring good staff for their companies, for any level of job, govt job interviews or for marriage alliances etc,

There are no such hard and fast rules for becoming an impactful personality. The only important thing is to know the importance of the place where you are, heeding to the requirements of the job and some technical knowledge demanded, can help you proceed further.

For this, so many institutes have been established, which promise to develop a person's vibrant personality for his career growth. It is just another way of earning, in which they group up some highlighted courses like spoken English, Business communication, some basic telephonic etiquettes, and some primary software applications and charge a reasonable amount from candidates.

One can prepare themselves for these kind of challenges, instead of joining such institutes that waste the hard-earned money of the individuals. If a person has studied from English medium right from his childhood there should be no need for spoken English or business communication for him. Instead, he can learn these things after joining any organization too.

Being confident and grasping the necessary updates and upgrading their skills from time to time can yield a person the desired job and the role he had been dreaming of from the beginning.

Careers & Hardships

Jeevan bahut anishchit hai. Aap kuchh achchha karane kee yojana banaate hain aur yah aapake saamane kuchh anya ajeeb apratyaashit aur agyaat paristhitiyaan laata hai, jinake lie aap kabhee bhee taiyaar nahin honge. Yah aap par kathin chunautiyon ko phenkata hai, aur har koee aapase jeetane kee ummeed karata hai. Isamen, kuchh vijeta ke roop mein ubharenge aur anya apane sahee raaste se bhatak jaenge, kisee aur cheej mein ruchi talaashenge jo bahut adhik asaamaany hai.

Aaj kee taareekh mein, aap shaayad hee logon ko unke manpasandeeda kam karta paenge. Inmen se adhikaansh apanee aajeevika kamaane ke lie ek vaikalpik samaadhaan ke roop mein apane kariyar ka chayan karate hain, aur samaaj mein ek sammaanajanak sthiti mein jeete hain. Doosree or, aap yuvaon ko badhate kariyar ko lene ke lie bhee utsuk paenge, lekin unakee gareebee aur aay mein kamee ke kaaran yah vaastav mein mushkil hai.

Bina kisee arthik sthirata ke, kam aay varg se aane vaale yuva, kai baar bade sapane dekhate hain. Aur kyunki ki unke lakshy itne majaboot aur thos hote hain, ve unhen praapt karane ke lie har kathinaee se gujarate hain. ve apane uddeshyon ko vaastavikata mein badalate hain aur vyavasaay, praudyogikee, vigyaan, kala ya raajaneeti mein vishaal naam ke roop mein saamane aate hain.

kuchh maamalon mein, maata-pita kee ichchhaanusaar yuvaon ko apana kariyar chunana hota hae. jahaan, ve chaahate hain ki unke bachche achchha kariyar sanvaaren aur ve ise poora karane ke lie har kaam karate hain. lekin unakee santaan ka hith kuchh aur hee cheez ,me hota hai. jisse ki ve apane maata-pita se asahamat hote hain, unaka peechha nahin karate hain. taaki, samaaj mein unakee viraasat aur prasiddhi vyarth na jae. isse kariyar ko balapoorvak ya us streem mein buree tarah se viphal hone ke lie raajee kiya jaata hai. jo yuva ke man par is tarah se prabhaav daalata hai ki ve kisee bhee kaary mein saphal hone ke bajaay viphal hone kee or jhukaav zyada rakhate hain.

Isalie, maata-pita ko apane bachchon ko pooree tarah se samajhana chaahie aur bachapan se hee unake hiton ka paalan karana chaahie aur unake junoon aur ichchhaon ko poora karane mein unaka samarthan karana chaahie, chahe wo koi bada ya chhota  ho, taaki unake lie ek achchha kariyar aur behatar bhavishy bana sake.

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 Life is very much uncertain. You plan for something good and it brings some other weird unexpected and unknown situations in front of you, which you will never be prepared for. It throws the most toughest challenges at you, and everyone expects you to win. In this, some will emerge as winners and others get deviated from their right path, finding interest in something else that is very much unusual.

In todays date, you will rarely find people following their passion. Most of them choose their careers as an alternate solution for earning their livelihood, and being at a respectable position in the society. On the other hand, you'll also find the youth desirous to take up the mounting careers, but find it really difficult, due to their poverty and scarcity of income.

Youth coming from the lower income groups with no financial stability, more often dream big. And as their goals are so strong and concrete, they go through every hardship to achieve them. They turn their motives in to reality and come out as gigantic names in business, technology, science, arts or politics.

Where as in few cases, the youngsters will have to choose their careers as per the parents wish. Where, parents want their children to take up good careers and they do every thing to make it happen. But their offspring's interest lies in something else. Which they do not pursue as their parents disagree to it. So that, their legacy and fame in the society would not go in a vain. This results in persuading the careers forcefully or failing in that stream miserably. Which impacts the minds of young one's in such a way that they are inclined towards defeat rather than succeeding in any tasks.

Hence, parents should understand their children completely and observe their interests right from their childhood itself and support them in perusing their passion and desires, be it a big or small, in order to shape up a good career and a better future for them.

Family & Generation Gap

Jeevan achchhe parinaam aur bure samay ka saamana kar raha hai. is baat kee koee gaarantee nahin hai ki koee vyakti keval saubhaagy ka saamana karata hai jabaki any durbhaagyapoorn. vyaktigat roop se har kisee kee yaatra ke baare mein. shiksha, samaajeekaran ya shishtaachaar ya dhang seekhane ka uddeshy svayan hee smaart nirnay lene se buree paristhitiyon se bachana hai.

Lekin samasya yah hai ki yuva peedhee khud ko shikshit karatee hai aur apane phaisale khud lena chaahatee hai, badee peedhee jo itanee shikshit nahin hai aur usakee koee aapasee samajh nahin hai, beech mein hastakshep karatee hai aur apana nirnay badalatee hai. nateejatan, poora khel badal jaata hai aur yuva buree tarah se viphal ho jaate hain. haalaanki, yah har jagah kee sthiti nahin hai. kuchh parivaaron mein jahaan badee peedhee shikshit, paripakv aur samajhadaar hotee hai, ye paristhitiyaan paida nahin hotee hain, aur donon peedhiyaan aapasee sahamati se haath bantaatee hain.

Yadi parivaar ke bujurg naveenatam rujhaanon ya praudyogikee se achchhee tarah se vaakiph nahin hain, jo yuva hain, to ve apane bachchon ko pooree tarah se samarthan karate hain aur anaavashyak aur bina kisee jhagade ya tark ke bajaay unhen daud jeetane dete hain. yahee kaaran hai ki logon ko samaaj mein ek achchha naam milata hai aur saath hee unaka darja ooncha ho jaata hai, ek baar unake bade hone par unakee kamaee shuroo ho jaatee hai. yahaan tak ​​ki yuva apane badon ka sammaan karate hain yadi ve lagaataar unakee bhalaee ke lie unaka samarthan karate hain jo isake vipareet hai. aur yah napharat ya ahankaar ke takaraav ke bajaay parivaar mein achchhee ichchha, ekata aur majaboot bandhan ko badhaava deta hai.

Aur jo log kabhee isase baahar nahin aate hain, ve parivaar ke bheetar har kisee ke jeevan ko kharaab karate hain aur ant tak kuchh bhee haasil nahin karate hain, aur dukhee ke roop mein mar jaate hain. is tarah ke parivaaron ke bahut saare udaaharan hain, jabaki doosaree or, shikshit yuvaon ke apane parivaaron ko unnat karane kee dar bhee badh rahee hai, jisase saphal aur khushahaal parivaar banate hain, jo shaantipoorn raashtron kee or le jaate hain.

Isalie, apane bachchon ka virodh karane ya unase napharat karane ke bajaay, maata-pita ko apane bachchon kee bachapan se hee sahee aavashyakataon ko samajhane aur unake mahaan bhavishy ke lie yogadaan karane aur aapasee samajhaute aur ekajutata ke saath shaantipoorn jeevan jeene kee aavashyakata hai.

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Life is all about facing good times and bad times consequently. There's no guarantee that one faces only good fortune while others are misfortunate. Its about everybody's journey individually. The purpose of education, socialising or learning etiquettes or mannerism itself is to avoid the worst situations by taking smart decisions. 

But the problem is where the younger generation educates themselves and wants to take their own decisions, the elder generation who is not so educated and has no mutual understanding, interferes in the middle and changes their decision. As a result, the complete game changes and the youngsters fail terribly. However, this is not the situation everywhere. In some families where the elder generation is educated, matured and wise, these circumstances do not prevail, and both the generations go hand in hand by mutual consent.

                                  

If the elders of the family are not well versed with the latest trends or technology, which the youth are, they have support their children completely and let them win the race, instead of unnecessary and unrequired fights or arguments. That is how people get a good name in the society and also their status is elevated, once their grown up's start earning big.  Even the youngsters respect their elders if they constantly support them for their well being which is vice versa. And this promotes the good will, unity and strong bonding in the family instead of hatred or ego clashes.

And the people who never come out of this, spoils everybody's lives within the family and achieve nothing by the end, and die as misers. There are so many examples of these kind of families, while on the other hand, the rate of educated youth upgrading their families is also on the rise, leading to the successful and happy families which in turn leads to the peaceful nations.

Hence, instead of opposing their own children or hating them, there's a need for the parents to understand the requirements of their kids right from their childhood and contribute for their great future and lead a peaceful life with mutual agreement and togetherness.                                   

  

 

Women & Development

Mahilaon i, ai patniyon ko purushon ke "behatar padaav" ya "sabase achchhe padaav" kaha jaata hai. aur aamataur par apanee saphalata ke peechhe log hote hain. purush jo kaam karate hain, vah unakee naukaree, vetan, unake rishtedaaron aadi ke saath sambandhon ko banae rakhane jaisee baaharee duniya hai. aur baakee sab kuchh mahilaon dvaara apane bhojan se lekar apane bachchon ke lie apane maata-pita, poore parivaar kee sehat ke lie kiya jaata hai. yadi koee. yahee kaaran hai ki mahilaon ko ek parivaar kee "baik bon" kaha jaata hai. aur isalie apanee dainik jimmedaariyon ka nirvahan karate hue, apane aatm sammaan ko arjit karane aur un parivaaron mein har ek ke lie ek bahut hee mahatvapoorn vyakti banane ke lie bahut achchhee tarah se samaayojit kiya jaata hai, jahaan mahilaon ke saath sammaanapoorvak vyavahaar kiya jaata hai.

Doosaree or, kaee parivaar apanee betee ko sasuraal vaalon kee tarah maanate hain. aur chaahate hain ki ve usakee pooree pahachaan ko bhool jaen aur usake jeevan bhar usakee seva karen, unake junoon aur aatm sammaan ko kshama karen. yahaan tak ​​ki purush apanee patniyon se bhee vaisa hee chaahate hain, kyonki unhen lagata hai ki unaka parivaar sahee hai aur unhen apane parivaar ke pratyek sadasy ko apane aatm sammaan ko bhoolakar apane ghar mein aane ka kharch har tarah se chukaana padata hai. aur jo vyakti ise achchhee tarah se karata hai, unakee aankhon ke seb kee tarah vyavahaar kiya jaata hai. aur jo ladakiyaan is tarah kee raajaneeti mein paarangat nahin hotee hain, unake saath galat vyavahaar kiya jaata hai. mahilaon ke adhikaaron kee suraksha ke lie kaee kaanoon aur neetiyaan banaee gaee hain. lekin, unakee soch ko aadhunik banaane ke bajaay, ghareloo hinsa ke maamale bahut tejee se badh rahe hain.

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Women i,e  wives are called as a "better halves" or the "best halves" of men. And usually are the people behind their success. What men manage is just the outer world like his Job, salary, maintaining the relations with his relatives etc,. And remaining everything else is done, managed and planned by women from his food to his children to his parents, whole family's health to relatives to shopping to groceries to medicines to clothes, household work, sorting the problems to adjusting to situations  till her own job if any. Which is why women are called as a "back bone" of a family. And hence are adjusted very well by discharging their daily responsibilities, earning their self respect and becoming a Very Important Person for every one in the families where women are treated respectfully.

On the other hand, many families treat their daughter in laws, like their legal slaves. And want them to forget her complete identity and serve them for the rest of  her life, forgiving their passion and self respect. Even men want the same from their wives as they think that their family is right and she has to pay the cost of coming to their house in every manner by pleasing each member of his family, forgetting her self esteem. And the person who does it well is treated like an apple of their eyes. And the girls who are not well versed in these kind of politics, are treated miserably. Many laws and policies have been framed for safeguarding the rights of women. But, instead of modernising their thinking, the cases of domestic violence are rising drastically. 

Thus, there is an urgent need for girls to focus more on their career. Become equally qualified like men and focus on their career, try to make their own identity ,take herself to the place she deserves to be and then think of marriage. And even after marriage, continue working for her own dignity and peaceful life ahead. For this to happen, the whole society's thinking has to be changed and the parents have to come forward to educate the girl child, for her and their better future and peaceful life ahead.

Failures & Success..

 

Log sochate hain ki agar unake jeevan mein kuchh galat hua, to jeevan bekaar ho gaya.Jeevan har charan mein yaatra se joojh raha hai. isake koee adhikaar ya galat nahin hain. ek ko is yaatra mein aage badhate rahana hai aur is yaatra ko agale star tak le jaane kee koshish karate rahana hai. jo peechhe baithata hai, vah apana samay aur jeevan barbaad karane ke alaava yahaan kuchh bhee haasil nahin karata hai. aise bahut se log hain jinhonne apanee asaphalataon ke baad nae sire se shuruaat kee hai, aur badee saphalataen haasil kee hain. asaphalataen saphalata kee seedhiyaan hain. ho sakata hai ki aap jeevan mein ek, do baar ya teen baar asaphal hon, lekin is yaatra mein peechhe baithana ya rukana nahin chaahie. har asaphalata hamen saphalata ke aur kareeb le jaatee hai aur hamen sikhaatee hai ki jeetane ke lie kya nahin karana chaahie.

Chaahe vah mahaan neta hon, raajaneta hon ya peshevar har ek ne apane jeevan mein ek ya do baar nahin balki kaee baar asaphalata ka svaad chakha hai, lekin unhonne ummeed nahin chhodee hai. Ve ek din tak lagaataar prayaas karate rahe jab tak ki unhen saphalata nahin mil gaee. ise ek peshevar ya vyaktigat jeevan hone den, ek kharonch se shuroo hota hai aur koee gaarantee nahin hai ki ve saphal honge. kisee ko bhee aasha kee roshanee ko unamen door nahin hone dena chaahie. saphal hone se pahale kisee kee jindagee aasaan nahin hotee hai. kuchh ko kuchh chunautiyon ka saamana karana padata hai aur doosaron ko kaee kathin samasyaon se ladana padata hai. aur jo adhik kathin chunautiyon ka saamana karata hai, unakee saphalata kee kahaaniyaan bhee baakee kee tulana mein adhik hongee. ve hain jinhonne duniya mein bahut prasiddhi haasil kee. yahaan tak ​​ki agar koee saarvajanik roop se bilkul theek dikhata hai, to ve apane nijee jeevan mein jabaradast ladaee ladate rahate hain.

Saphalata praapt karane ke lie ekamaatr nichala rekha sir majaboot hona chaahie aur kabhee aasha nahin chhodanee chaahie. aasha vah cheej hai jo aapako ek ke baad ek saphalata kee seedhee chadhane mein madad karatee hai.

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People think that if something goes wrong in their lives, life has becomes worthless. Life is all about battling the journey at every stage. There are no rights or wrongs to it. One has to keep moving in this journey and keep trying to take this journey to the next level. One who sits back, achieves nothing here, except wasting his time and life. There are so many people who have started fresh after their failures, and achieved great successes. Failures are the stepping stones to success. May be you are unsuccessful once, twice or thrice in life, but there should be no sitting back or stopping in this journey. Every failure takes us more closer to success and teaches us exactly what not to do in order to win. 

Whether it be the great leaders, politicians or professionals every one has tasted the failure not once or twice but several times in their lives ,but they didn't give up the hope. They kept on trying repeatedly until one day they achieved success. Let it be a professional or a personal life, one starts from the scratch and there's no guarantee that they'd succeed. One should never let the light of hope fade away in them. No one's life is easy one has to face many hardships before becoming the successful. Some have to face a few challenges and others have to fight many tougher problems. And the one who faces more tougher challenges, their success stories also will be greater than the rest. Those are the one's who achieved a great fame in the world. Even if one looks perfectly alright in public, they keep on fighting the tremendous battles in their personal lives.

The only bottom line is be head strong to achieve success and never give up on hope. Hope is the thing which helps you climb the ladder of success one after the other. 

Dec.5th.2020

Jaisa ki ek kahaavat hai "jeevan gulaab ka bistar nahin hai". har din ek naya sangharsh hota hai, khaasakar tab jab aap ek bhaarateey grhinee ke roop mein hote hain, isakee dainik chunautiyon ka saamana karana aasaan nahin hota hai jo ki jeevan aapake oopar phenk deta hai. aapase jeevan ke sabhee charanon mein paripoorn hone kee ummeed kee jaatee hai, jo ek saamaany insaan kabhee bhee nahin kar sakata.

Bhaarateey samaaj mein apane sampoorn kaamakaaj mein har charan mein yahaan bahut saare sanshodhanon kee aavashyakata hotee hai, visheshakar jab yah baalikaon ke lie aata hai, chaahe vah unakee shaadee se pahale ho ya baad mein. kaee logon ne kaee cheejon mein yogadaan diya hai lekin kroorata aur kroorata ab bhaarateey sanskrti ka hissa ban gaee hai.

Aaj, yahaan tak ki ladakiyaan bhee shiksha, kala, sanskrti, phaishan ke kshetr mein aakaash kee uchch seema ko chhoo rahee hain ya kabhee bhee jis udyog mein unakee dilachaspee hai, lekin jaisa ki ve kahate hain, "mahilaen mahilaon kee sabase badee dushman hain". unhen kheenchane vaale log bhee mahilaen hain. vishesh roop se, jab yah sasuraal ke saath kathin paristhitiyon ka saamana karate hue shaadee ke baad hota hai.

Khud ko shikshit karane, jeevika ke uchit saadhanon kee khoj karane, apane sasuraal vaalon ko khush karane ke lie uchit shishtaachaar seekhane ke baad bhee itane saal bitaane ke baad bhee vah aisa karane mein viphal rahatee hai. jaisa ki duniya paakhandiyon se bharee hai, koee bhee vyakti apane siddhaanton par chalane vaale kisee vyakti ko shaayad hee khoj sakata hai. agar ve nahin jaanate ki raajaneeti kaise khelee jaatee hai, to ve maasoom ladakiyon ko mobail phon richaarj karate samay upayog kie jaane vaale richaarj kaard kee tarah kharonch denge. aur parinaamasvaroop, ya to unaka jeevan talaak mein samaapt ho jaata hai ya ve duniya ke baakee hisson se alag rahate hain.

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As there's a saying "Life is not a bed of roses". Everyday is a new struggle especially when u r an Indian housewife, its not easy to face the daily challenges that life throws at you. You are expected to be perfect at all the stages of life, which a normal human being can never be at all times. 

There are a lots and lots of modifications needed here in the Indian society at its every stage in its overall functioning especially when it comes to the girl child whether it be before or after their marriage. Many people have contributed many things but the cruelty and brutality has become a part of the Indian culture now.

Today, even the girls are touching the sky high limits in the field of education, arts, culture, fashion or which ever industry they're interested in. But as they say, "Women are women's worst enemy". People who pull them down too are women. Particularly, when it is after marriage while facing the difficult situations with her in-laws.

 Even after spending so many years in educating themselves, searching for the proper means of livelihood, learning the proper etiquettes to please her in-laws, she fails in doing so. As the world is full of hypocrites, one can hardly find any person who sticks on to his principles here. If they do not know how to play politics, they'll scratch the innocent girls like a recharge card used while recharging a mobile phone. And as a result, either their life ends up in divorce or they're kept aloof from rest of the world.